Dreams and Goals

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My opinion is dreams and goals are interconnected. We have dreams of what we would like to do, places to visit, travel to other places, have a certain income or occupation, family, and others. We may have started dreaming about these types of subjects while we were small. We add to our dreams. As we get older we add more dreams and refine the ones we carry with us, and sometimes decide the dream is not what we want.

In order for dreams to be fulfilled, we have to make plans. If our dream is to travel to France we need a plan. First, we need to decide where we want to visit in France and how long our trip will be. Then we need to search what is the cost of this trip. Once we have a monetary figure we can examine our finances to see if we have what is required. Most people have to earn the money and save for the trip. They set a goal for saving. When they reach the required amount they have reached the goal, then can proceed with the plans.

They get a passport and travel papers if necessary, book an airline ticket, reserve housing arrangement, plan their day to day trip. The day before leaving on this fabulous trip, they pack and schedule a ride to the airport. Board the plane, land in France – Goal accomplished, and the Dream is being realized.

Dreams can be big or small. Dream of having a beautiful flower garden in the yard, redecorating a room in a home, remodel a bathroom. These dreams require a similar planning process and goals to bring the dream to realization and experience.

” When you stop dreaming your soul begins to dry up.”

I can not remember the person who said this to me, but I always thought it was important. When I was younger I did not give much thought to the quote as I was busy with dreaming and planning.

Now that I am in the golden years of my life, finances are tight, my body does not respond as when I was twenty, I realize the need to keep the quote in mind.

People who retire and do not keep busy, die earlier than those who are busy and still pursuing dreams and goals.

Keeping the mind busy, learning how to make a beautiful flower garden in the yard, one you dreamed of having, but did not have the time when working. The process of learning to do a new skill, keeps the mind from slowing down and being forgetful. Keeping the body moving helps the muscles to stay active and the bones strong.

Doing an activity, especially new learned activity help fight off depression. When Covid-19 hit, and everyone was put in lockdown, not able to socialize or do activities, depression soared and suicides increases dramatically. Mental health was a much a concern as someone being infected with Covid-19.

Not everyone lives in a home with a yard or a balcony. Some have to share a home with others. What is available for them to learn and do in a confined area. Sewing, I have two friends who are older and not able to get outside to do things in their yards, but they sew lap quilts for a nursing home. Perhaps a new hobby never tried, always wanted to learn to paint. There are plenty of painting tutorials on youtube.

Go back to school. During Covid a friend in her late twenties who worked as a waitress, was forced to go home, the restaurant closed. She was getting unemployment, did not have to pay daycare as the children were home. Used the stimulus money to go to college online, work towards a college degree and a better job. I still have the dream of finishing my college education to a bachelor’s degree. I currently do not have the time or money, I will not do student loans again as I finally got mine paid off last fall. But it is still a dream. Will I teach school with my bachelor’s, probably not, but I will have completed a goal and feel the accomplish, pride and satisfaction from having done so.

Keep dreaming. Keep setting goals.

amtolle

Dreams, Dreams and Dreams

The prompt for bloganuary, January 24 is “Write about a dream you remember”. In pondering what to write, I divided my dreams into three categories.

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The first thought when I hear the word dream is the nightly thoughts I have as I sleep. Until two years ago, I did not want to lay down to sleep. I dreaded sleep. For almost twenty years, my dreams were haunting nightmares. I do not want to remember.

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Day dreams, pleasant thoughts of what we would like to happen. Daydreaming of someone I was attracted to asking me to a dance. Or training a horse to a level in competition and winning. Day dreams for the most part are fantasies, something we would like to happen.

Finally, dreams with a passion. Strong desires I wanted for my life directions. When I was in high school I dreamed of being a veterinarian. I loved animals and still do. I wanted to help animals be healthy and well. I went through high school studying diligently, had high marks. I was set to go to the college and university, then I made a choice. That choice changed my pathway and I never did go to college or university to become a veterinarian. But, I have realized my dream as I care for my animals everyday, first as a horse trainer and breeding facility and today as a sheep farmer.

There are two families I do business with as a sheep farmer. These two families have the same number of children, are about the same age.

The first, this family day dreams of having a better life, being able to buy a car. We have discussed what their goals are for raising sheep. When talking with them their conversation is about everything that has gone wrong and it is someone else’s fault. Their conversation is very negative, they do not dream, set a goal and work towards the goal. They blame their mistakes or lack of change on someone else. They have family near where they live, but I think they get negative support. This family has the ability for change, if they changed to being positive in their thoughts and actions. Bad things happen to everyone, but how we think determines if we move forward or sink a little deeper in the mud.

The second family, the parents dream of a different life for their children. They have obstacles in the way of reaching their dreams, as they are not from this country. They work hard, dream hard and have hope. When I speak with this family, the first is to tell me their successes, and sometimes of their problems in order to find a possible solution.

Dreams are a powerful tool in setting goals for our lives and reaching goals. How we view our life and dreams has a big effect on the choices we make and if we succeed. We can have dreams and goals, but if we view our life through negative glasses, only seeing the bad and not learning from our mistakes, we can not climb the mountain to reach our goal. Looking through positive glasses, helps us to find the solutions when things do not go as planned, to not be afraid to alter our plans to reach our goals, and to learn from our mistakes.

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Do not stop dreaming. I may not have reached the dreams of my youth, but I have dreams and some are big dreams. My husband tells me, I am a person when things do not go as planned or our life makes a big shift we were not expecting, I look for a way to climb back up the mountain. I do not give up.

Keep dreaming, keep climbing.

amtolle